The last few weeks have been weeks of connecting and reconnecting with people. I, personally, did reconnect with a number of people. And I saw some people reconnect as well. And in some instances, I put off reconnecting and lost the chance to connect forever.
The reasons why connections had broken varied:
The most mundane, and the usual reason. Busyness.
People have gone their own way which tended to be in different direction.
Assumptions. Assumptions arising out of past events… Events which were not discussed and sorted out.
Misunderstanding and past hurts.
Drifting apart - unconsciously. Gradually. Without notice.
Similarly, various things that caused reconnection:
Determination and conscious effort - by either one or both parties to connect again. Deliberately making time for one another. Even if it means taking some sort of extra effort to make it fit in both of your schedules.
Picking up that phone and making the call. Now.
Travelling - this kind of overcomes the geographical distance.
Willing to take the risk. Willing to put aside our assumptions and to become vulnerable. Taking that one chance that our assumptions may be wrong.
Forgiving and putting aside differences. Being willing to talk it out.
Looking in your calendar and marking out time for meeting with old friends. And then calling the friends and asking them to block the date in their calendars as well.
Persistence - some people need that. But don't be persistent to the point of being annoying.
And in some cases, losing your mobile phone can also cause you to reconnect. :)
And the reconnections had these effects on me:
"Gosh! I had actually missed this person and didn't realise it for this long."
"It is wonderful to pick up from where we left. It is great that I can be as honest and vulnerable with this person as I was then."
"Wow! We've both grown and matured. And we still click."
"I still love this person…"
"It's so wonderful to laugh like we used to…"
And while saying all this, I must also mention that one of the members of my extended family died. We were planning to visit them just two days before she died, but we put it off for another day that would never come…
So people, pick up that phone and make that call. Spend a couple of minutes and email. Look in your calendar and see who you want to meet up with for coffee today. Get to know the person you've been wanting to get to know…
p.s. - Do feel free to share your reconnection stories. Treat this as a tag if you will.